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Back to school and the holidays are around the corner. Life can get busy and stressful but we need to continue to exercise patience. It is a Christ-like attribute and takes time to develop. Check out this great family home evening lesson on patience! Scripture: Alma 7:23 Hymn: I Know My Father Lives or Before Thee, Lord, I Bow My Head Lesson: Benjamin's Quilt or Patience, a Key to Happiness Treat: The Apple of Our Eye or Spiral Apple Tart Activity: Roll Out the Marble or Sharpshooter •View entire lesson...

Patience

FHE Scripture

Scripture

Alma 7:23

23- And now I would that ye should be humble, and be submissive and gentle; easy to be entreated; full of patience and long-suffering; being temperate in all things; being diligent in keeping the commandments of God at all times; asking for whatsoever things ye stand in need, both spiritual and temporal; always returning thanks unto God for whatsoever things ye do receive.

FHE Lesson Hymn

Hymn

I Know My Father Lives- Primary Song 5 or Before Thee, Lord, I Bow My Head Hymn 158

I Know My Father Lives

1. I know my Father lives and loves me too.
The Spirit whispers this to me and tells me it is true,
And tells me it is true.

2. He sent me here to earth, by faith to live his plan.
The Spirit whispers this to me and tells me that I can,
And tells me that I can.

Before Thee, Lord, I Bow My Head

1. Before thee, Lord, I bow my head
And thank thee for what has been said.
My soul vibrates; my poor heart sings
When thy sweet Spirit strikes the strings.
How sweet thy word I’ve heard this day!
Be thou my guide, O Lord, I pray.
May I in patience do my part.
Seal thou the word upon my heart.

2. Do thou, O Lord, anoint mine eyes
That I may see and win the prize.
My heart is full; mine eyes are wet.
Oh, help me, Lord, lest I forget.
So may my soul be filled with light
That I may see and win the fight,
And then at last exalted be,
In peace and rest, O Lord, with thee.

3. Look up, my soul; be not cast down.
Keep not thine eyes upon the ground.
Break off the shackles of the earth.
Receive, my soul, the spirit’s birth.
And now as I go forth again
To mingle with my fellowmen,
Stay thou nearby, my steps to guide,
That I may in thy love abide.

FHE Lesson

Lesson

*For Younger Children* Share the story of Benjamin’s Quilt (taken from the Friend, Feb 1990) and testify of the importance of being patient.

Benjamin pulled his quilt up to his chin as his mom kissed him good night. R-r-r-r-r-i-i-i-p!

“Oh my!” Mom exclaimed, examining the long, jagged tear. The old quilt had been patched and mended, and mended and patched over years of daily use by three different children. “Time for a new quilt,” she announced.

“You know what I need, Mom?” Benjamin grinned. “A quilt with houses and streets on it.”

Mom kissed him again. “I’ll give it some thought,” she said, turning out the light.

The next day, Mom got her fabric box from a shelf in the basement. There were fabric pieces of all kinds and colors. She pulled out a piece of green material and a piece of gray. Then she looked carefully through the smaller pieces, choosing white, blue, tan, red, brown, and some small printed scraps.

Benjamin watched her cut the green fabric into large squares. Then she asked, “Will this gray be OK for streets?” Ben nodded. So she cut the gray into long, narrow strips. Her scissors snip-snipped for an awfully long time as she cut out the other colors too. But finally there were shapes cut for all sorts of buildings with roofs and chimneys and doors and windows. There were even some trees and bushes here and there.

“Will it be done tonight?” Benjamin asked.

“Oh no—not tonight,” Mom chuckled. “It takes a lot of work to make a quilt.”

The next afternoon Mom appliquéd all the houses and buildings onto the green squares. The sewing machine hummed and buzzed. Benjamin watched for a long time. Then Mom stopped to fix dinner.

On the third day, when Benjamin came in from play, the quilt top had been sewn together. Mom spread it out on the floor so that he could look at it.

“That looks like our house!” his sisters agreed, pointing to a white house with brown trim.

The colored squares with the buildings were separated by gray strips. It looked like a tiny town. Everyone admired it.

“Can I use my quilt tonight?” Benjamin asked.

“Not yet. You see, this is just the top. I have to put a piece of fabric on the bottom and fluffy batting in between. Then I have to sew all the layers together.”

Saturday was a busy day, and there was no time for working on the new quilt. But Dad did buy the rest of the materials for it, and he borrowed the quilting frames from Grandma.

Sunday wasn’t a quilting day, either. It sure is hard to wait for a quilt,Benjamin thought.

On Monday Mom put all three layers of the quilt on the frames and started stitching the layers together. Benjamin’s sisters helped a little. When his best friend’s mom heard about the quilt, she came to help too. Benjamin lay on the floor under the quilt and watched the brown stitches slowly outline each building and landscape. The next day Grandma and Aunt Tess came to help finish the outlining.

“Is it done now?” Benjamin asked.

“Not yet.” Mom pulled him close. “See how the outside edge is open. I have to bind the edges so that the batting will stay in and the edges will look nice.”

“Can you do that tonight?”

“I’ll try, but I have to go to a meeting tonight.”

After dinner, Benjamin watched Mom sew strips of green fabric together for the binding. Then she pressed it in half. But that was all that she got done before her Church meeting. As she kissed Benjamin good night, she said, “Tomorrow night you can sleep with your new quilt, I promise.”

Sure enough, when Benjamin went to bed the next night, the quilt was spread out on it. Mom asked, “Was it worth waiting for?”

Benjamin climbed under the quilt and just grinned.

Discuss the following questions as a family:

1- What did Benjamin want his mom to make?
2- Did Benjamin have to wait for his mom to finish the quilt?
3- Was Benjamin glad he waited for the quilt?
4- What are things you have to wait for?

Testify of the importance of being patient.

*For Teenagers or Adults* Discuss part of the April 1987 Conference talk by Joseph B Wirthlin (Patience, a Key to Happiness). Testify of the importance of patience and how it can bring happiness.

Dictionaries define patience in such terms as bearing pain or sorrow calmly or without complaint; not being hasty or impetuous; being steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity.

In a passage from the Book of Mormon, Alma helps us understandpatience. After telling about planting a seed that can grow to become a tree, he adds these insightful words: “And behold, as the tree beginneth to grow, … if ye nourish it with much care it will get root, and grow up, and bring forth fruit. …

“And because of your diligence and your faith and your patience … ye shall pluck the fruit thereof, which is most precious, which is sweet above all that is sweet, … and ye shall feast upon this fruit even until ye are filled, that ye hunger not, neither shall ye thirst. …

“Ye shall reap the rewards of your faith, and your diligence, and patience” (Alma 32:37, 42–43).

A certain amount of impatience may be useful to stimulate and motivate us to action. However, I believe that a lack of patience is a major cause of the difficulties and unhappiness in the world today. Too often, we are impatient with ourselves, with our family members and friends, and even with the Lord. We seem to demand what we want right now, regardless of whether we have earned it, whether it would be good for us, or whether it is right. Some seek immediate gratification or numbing of every impulse by turning to alcohol and drugs, while others seek instant material wealth by questionable investments or by dishonesty, with little or no regard for the consequences. Perhaps the practice of patience is more difficult, yet more necessary, now than at any previous time.

What individuals in the scriptures showed great patience? (Jesus Christ, Paul, Job, Joseph Smith)

We should learn to be patient with ourselves. Recognizing our strengths and our weaknesses, we should strive to use good judgment in all of our choices and decisions, make good use of every opportunity, and do our best in every task we undertake. We should not be unduly discouraged nor in despair at any time when we are doing the best we can. Rather, we should be satisfied with our progress even though it may come slowly at times.

We should be patient in developing and strengthening our testimonies. Rather than expecting immediate or spectacular manifestations, though they will come when needed, we should pray for a testimony, study the scriptures, follow the counsel of our prophet and other Church leaders, and live the principles of the gospel. Our testimonies then will grow and mature naturally, perhaps imperceptibly at times, until they become driving forces in our lives.

Patience with family members and others who are close to us is vital for us to have happy homes. However, we often seem more willing to be courteous and polite with strangers than with those in our own family circles. For some reason, criticism, sharp language, and quarreling too often seem to be acceptable at home but not away from home.

Husbands, be patient with your wives; and wives, be patient with your husbands. Don’t expect perfection. Find agreeable ways to work out the differences that arise. Remember President David O. McKay’s wise counsel regarding marriage: keep your eyes wide open before marriage and half closed afterward (see Conference Report, Apr. 1956, p. 9). Perhaps, on occasion, our wives could get into the car and honk the horn while we, as husbands, get the children ready.

Parents, be patient with your children. Read to your little children and help them with their schoolwork, even if you need to tell or show them the same thing many times. Elder Richard L. Evans said, “If they find that they can trust us with their trivial questions, they may later trust us with more weighty ones” (Ensign, May 1971, p. 12). Capitalize on their natural curiosity and help them develop a love for learning. Teach them the principles of the gospel in simple terms. Be patient with them if they disturb family home evening or family prayers. Convey to them the reverence you feel for the gospel, Church leaders, and the Savior.

Be patient with your youth, especially as they make the transition from adolescence to adulthood. Many of them have the appearance of adults and think they are adults, but they have had little experience with which to make adult judgments. Help them to get the experience they need and to avoid the pitfalls that can harm them.

On the other hand, I urge you children to be patient with your parents. If they seem to be out of touch on such vital issues as dating, clothing styles, modern music, and use of family cars, listen to them anyway. They have the experience that you lack. Very few, if any, of the challenges and temptations you face are new to them. If you think they know nothing about the vital issues I just mentioned, take a good look at their high school and college yearbooks. Most important, they love you and will do anything they can to help you be truly happy.

Finally, a word about patience with our Heavenly Father and his plan of eternal progression. How incredibly foolish to be impatient with him, the Father of our spirits, who knows everything and whose work and glory, through his Son, Jesus Christ, is “to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man” (Moses 1:39). As Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, “Patienceis tied very closely to faith in our Heavenly Father. Actually, when we are unduly impatient, we are suggesting that we know what is best—better than does God. Or, at least, we are asserting that our timetable is better than his. Either way we are questioning the reality of God’s omniscience” (Ensign, Oct. 1980, p. 28).

I pray that we might be patient, especially in adversity, as we meet our challenges of uncertainty, trials, pressure, and tribulation in today’s world.

I close with my testimony to you that patience is a divine attribute.

Testify of the importance of patience and how it can bring us happiness.

FHE Treat

Treat

The Apple of Our Eye or Spiral Apple Tart

The Apple of Our Eye

Ingredients:

Cupcake batter
Red frosting
Red sugar sprinkles
Tootsie Roll Midgees
Green Tootsie Fruit Roll
White frosting

Instructions:

1- Mix your favorite cupcake batter and divide it evenly among cupcake wells lined with red paper or silicone cups, filling each one about three-quarters full. Bake the cupcakes according to the recipe directions and let them cool.

2- Carve a shallow, dime-size well in the top of each cupcake, then cover the tops with red frosting and coat them with red sugar sprinkles. Mold a small piece of a Tootsie Roll Midgee into a stem shape. Form a leaf from a small piece of green Tootsie Fruit Roll, pinch it against the stem, then insert the stem into the cupcake.

3- To make a bitten apple, spoon a small well from the side of the cupcake and line it with white frosting. Press tiny bits of Tootsie Roll Midgee in place for seeds.

Spiral Apple Tart

Ingredients:

CRUST:
1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour
3 tablespoons confectioners sugar
1/2 cup butter, cut into 1-inch pieces
FILLING:
2 8-ounce packages cream cheese, softened
1 egg
1/3 cup brown sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract

TOPPING:
5 to 6 firm apples, peeled, cored,and thinly sliced
1/2 cup sugar
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon nutmeg
1 tablespoon all-purpose flour
1 tablespoon butter

GLAZE:
1/2 cup apricot jam
1 tablespoon water

 

Instructions:

1- To make the crust, stir the flour and confectioners’ sugar in a mixing bowl. Have your child pinch and squeeze the butter into the flour with his fingertips until the butter pieces are pea-size. Transfer the crumbly mixture into an 11-inch tart pan and spread it evenly around the pan. Press the mixture into the bottom and sides of the pan. Cover with plastic wrap and freeze while you prepare the filling.

2- Next, make the cream cheese filling. Use an electric mixer to beat the cream cheese and egg until they are light and smooth. Beat in the brown sugar and vanilla extract. Set aside.

3- Heat the oven to 375°. In a mixing bowl, toss the apple slices with the sugar, cinnamon, nutmeg, and flour. Spread the cream cheese filling evenly over the chilled tart shell. Then, beginning on the outside edge, arrange the apples on top of the filling in overlapping circles. Pour any remaining juices from the bowl over the apples, then dot with the butter.

4- Bake the tart for about 1 hour or until the juices bubble and the apples turn tender. If the crust and apples begin to brown, cover the tart with the foil during the last 20 minutes of baking. Remove and cool.

5- To make the glaze, stir the apricot jam and water in a small saucepan over medium- high heat. Let the glaze boil for 1 to 2 minutes or until it becomes translucent and thin. Strain the glaze to remove any lumps. Then use a pastry brush to carefully paint the tart with the shiny glaze.

6- Serve the tart warm on its own — or with ice cream or whipped cream. Store leftovers, covered in plastic wrap, in the refrigerator. Serves 8 to 10.

(Recipes taken from Familyfun.go.com)

FHE Game / Activity

Activity

1- Play Roll Out the Marble.

2- Play Sharpshooter.

Comments

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About Aleah Ingram

Aleah Ingram
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a social media manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and is addicted to organic milk, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.

One comment

  1. Annabelle Wallace

    This lesson really taught my kids that waiting can be good and that they need to wait to get something great.

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