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FHE Scripture


Ephesians 6: 1-4

1. Children,  obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

FHE Lesson Hymn


Home Can Be a Heaven on Earth Hymn 298 OR Families Can Be Together Forever Children’s Songbook 188

Home Can Be a Heaven On Earth

1. Home can be a heav’n on earth
When we are filled with love,
Bringing happiness and joy,
Rich blessings from above–
Warmth and kindness, charity,
Safety and security–
Making home a part of heaven,
Where we want to be.

2. Drawing fam’ly near each week,
We’ll keep love burning bright.
Serving Him with cheerful hearts,
We’ll grow in truth and light.
Parents teach and lead the way,
Children honor and obey,
Reaching for our home in heaven,
Where we want to stay.

3. Praying daily in our home,
We’ll feel His love divine;
Searching scriptures faithfully,
We’ll nourish heart and mind.
Singing hymns of thanks, we’ll say,
“Father, help us find the way
Leading to our home in heaven,
Where we long to stay.”

Families Can Be Together Forever

1. I have a fam’ly here on earth.
They are so good to me.
I want to share my life with them through all eternity.

Fam’lies can be together forever
Through Heav’nly Father’s plan.
I always want to be with my own family,
And the Lord has shown me how I can.
The Lord has shown me how I can.

2. While I am in my early years,
I’ll prepare most carefully,
So I can marry in God’s temple for eternity.

FHE Lesson


*For Younger Children* Share the following story and discuss the questions at the end of the story. (Allyson Condie, “Part of the Family”, Friend, Feb. 2011, 36–37)

“I’m too excited to sleep,” Malia said as Mom pulled the soft blankets up to Malia’s chin.

“I know,” Dad said with a smile. “I am too.”

“I think it’s going to be even harder to sleep tonight than it was on Christmas Eve!” Malia squirmed with excitement under her blankets, and her parents laughed.

“What story would you like?” Mom asked.

“My story!” Malia said.

Dad walked over to the dresser and picked up Malia’s treasure box. It used to be a shoebox, but Malia decorated it and put all her special things in it. Dad handed the box to Malia, who pulled out three pictures.

Mom took the first picture and held it as she began the story.

“Your dad and I had been married for several years. We were very happy, but we wanted to have children. The doctors said that would not be possible,” Mom said.

“But that wasn’t true!” Malia said.

Mom smiled. “No, it wasn’t. One day, the phone rang. It was the call we had been waiting for. A young woman had chosen our family to adopt her baby because she wasn’t able to care for her.”

Mom held up the first picture. A young woman with long, dark hair and blue eyes smiled at the camera. She was Malia’s birth mother, and she had chosen Malia’s parents to adopt her baby.

“When your birth mother handed you to me, it was the most special moment of my life. I could see her love for you in her eyes, and I immediately loved you too,” Mom said.

“When I held you for the first time I knew you belonged in our family,” Dad said.

Malia smiled. It felt so good to be loved. She handed the second picture to Dad.

“It took six months for the judge to make the adoption final, and we went to the temple as soon as we could,” Mom said.

In the second picture Malia was wearing a delicate pink dress, sitting on her parents’ laps and laughing. Mom and Dad were smiling down at her and the temple shone in the background.

“After the sealing ceremony, the temple sealer told us that if we chose to keep the commandments, we would be a family forever,” Mom said.

Malia wanted to live righteously so she could be with her family forever.

Then Malia held up the last picture. “Can I tell this part?” she asked.

“Of course,” Mom said.

The last picture showed a tiny baby girl wrapped in a fuzzy pink blanket. The baby’s eyes were closed, and she wore a tiny hat.

“We have wanted to welcome another child into our family for a long time,” Malia said. “Today we got a special phone call from the social worker. I’m going to have a sister!”

“That’s right, and we’ll see her tomorrow!” Mom said.

“It’s more exciting than Christmas Eve,” Malia said again, and she snuggled into her pillow.

“I know just how you feel,” Dad said.

Malia watched Dad put the pictures back in the box. Someday soon she would make a treasure box for her new sister too.

Discuss the following questions:
Why was Malia excited?
What were the three pictures of?
Are families important? Why?
Why are families sealed in the temple?
How should we treat our families?

*For Teenagers or Adults* Share and discuss the following advice by Russell M Ballard. (M. Russell Ballard, “Parents and Children: Listening, Learning, and Loving”, New Era, Feb. 2011, 2–7)

To Fathers and Sons

There is no other relationship quite like that which can and should exist between a boy and his dad. It can be one of the most nurturing, joyful relationships in life, one that can have a profound impact on who boys and dads become. Now, I understand that some of you young men do not have fathers with whom you can have these kinds of conversations. And some of you men do not have sons or have lost your sons to accident or illness. But much of what I say will apply to uncles and grandfathers and priesthood leaders and other mentors who sometimes fill the gaps for these significant father-son relationships.

I know that father-son relationships are never perfect, but everything I am going to suggest to you is possible if you will put in the effort to make it happen.

Young men, you are your father’s pride and joy. In you they see a promising future and their hope for a better, improved version of themselves. Your accomplishments are a joy to them. Your worries and problems are their worries and problems.


1- Trust your father

2- Take an interest in your father’s life

3- Ask your father for advice


1- Listen to your sons–really listen to them

2- Pray with and for your sons

3- Dare to have “Big Talks” with your sons

To Mothers and Daughters

Mothers and daughters play a critical role in helping each other explore their infinite possibilities, despite the undermining influences of a world in which womanhood and motherhood are being corrupted and manipulated.

Sisters, we, your brethren, cannot do what you were divinely designated to do from before the foundation of the world. We may try, but we cannot ever hope to replicate your unique gifts. There is nothing in this world as personal, as nurturing, or as life changing as the influence of a righteous woman.

I understand that some of you young women do not have mothers with whom you can discuss these issues. And many of you women do not presently have daughters in your lives. But because all women have within their divine nature both the inherent talent and the stewardship to mother, most of what I will say applies equally to grandmothers, aunts, sisters, stepmothers, mothers-in-law, leaders, and other mentors who sometimes fill the gaps for these significant mother-daughter relationships.

Young women, your mothers adore you. They see in you the promise of future generations. Everything you accomplish, every challenge you overcome brings them pure joy. And likewise your worries and heartaches are their worries and heartaches.

I wish to give you young women some suggestions on how to take full advantage of your relationship with your mother. And then I have a few thoughts to share with mothers about how they can maximize their influence with their daughters.


1- Look to your mother as a role model

2- Listen to and learn from your mother

3- Love, respect, trust and be patient with your mother


1- Teach your daughter to find joy in nurturing children

2- Have open discussions with your daughter, especially on topics such as, modesty and morality

3- Teach your daughter about things of the Spirit


Young men, you are your father’s pride and joy. In you they see a promising future and their hope for a better, improved version of themselves. Your accomplishments are a joy to them. Your worries and problems are their worries and problems.

Young women, your mothers adore you. They see in you the promise of future generations. Everything you accomplish, every challenge you overcome brings them pure joy. And likewise your worries and heartaches are their worries and heartaches.


Fathers and Sons

Mothers and Daughters

Discuss the following questions:
Are relationships important? Why?
What can we each do to improve our relationships with each other?
What were some of the suggestions that Elder Ballard shared?

FHE Treat


I Choo-Choose You Cupcakes or Sweet Heart Pops

I Choo-Choose You Cupcakes


Prebaked cupcakes
Frosting (enough to ice the cupcakes with a little left over for building the engines)
Tootsie Rolls (the short kind, not the long kind)
Red licorice
Serrated knife
Small peanut butter cups
Cinnamon Red Hots
Red gel icing
White paper, markers, and tape


1- Frost the cupcakes, reserving a little icing to build the train engines. For each one, unwrap a Tootsie Roll and slice off one third of its length (the Tootsie Roll is actually scored into three sections). Firmly press this slice atop the back end of the remaining piece so that it sticks in place to create the train engine’s body.

2- Use a toothpick to anchor a 1/2-inch piece of licorice to the top of the engine for a smokestack. With a serrated knife, gently saw a peanut butter cup in half (a parent’s job). Then attach one half, turned upside down, to the front of the engine to form a cowcatcher. Use frosting to stick three cinnamon Red Hots for wheels along the bottom of each side.

3- Set the engine on top of the cupcake and press it slightly into the frosting. Then use red gel icing to draw a train track in front and in back of the engine. Finally, cut out a paper steam puff. Print on the message “I choo-choose you!” and tape it to the toothpick.

Sweet Heart Pops


12 mini candy canes
6 (6-inch) paper lollipop sticks
½ cup white chocolate chips
1½ teaspoons vegetable oil
Red, white, and pink nonpareils or sugar sprinkles


1- Heat the oven to 235°. On a parchment-lined baking sheet, arrange the candy canes as hearts and bake them for 10 minutes.

2- Slide the hearts, still on the parchment paper, onto a work surface. Quickly pinch each heart onto a lollipop stick as shown below (an adult’s job).

3- In the microwave, melt together the chocolate chips and the oil in 10-second intervals, stirring between heatings.

4- Spoon the chocolate mixture into the center of each heart, then top with nonpareils or sugar sprinkles. Cool the pops before serving or wrapping them.

(Recipes taken from Familyfun.go.com)

FHE Game / Activity


1- Print and do the Family History Fun activity in the February 2011 Friend. Also play “I Spy”.

2- Play musical chairs.

3- Make and write a note of appreciation to a family member.

4- Go somewhere as a family (movie, shopping, athletic event, dinner etc).

5- Decorate the “I Choo-Choose You” cupcakes/make them for your FHE activity.

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Aleah Ingram
Aleah Ingram
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.

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