Thursday, May 16, 2024

Self Reliance

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FHE Scripture


D&C 29:34

“34 Wherefore, verily I say unto you that all things unto me are spiritual, and not at any time have I given unto you a law which was temporal…”

FHE Lesson Hymn


Put Your Shoulder to the Wheel  Hymn #252 or The Family-Children’s Songbook #194

Put Your Shoulder to the Wheel

1. The world has need of willing men
Who wear the worker’s seal.
Come, help the good work move along;
Put your shoulder to the wheel.

Put your shoulder to the wheel; push along,
Do your duty with a heart full of song,
We all have work; let no one shirk.
Put your shoulder to the wheel.

2. The Church has need of helping hands,
And hearts that know and feel.
The work to do is here for you;
Put your shoulder to the wheel.

3. Then don’t stand idly looking on;
The fight with sin is real.
It will be long but must go on;
Put your shoulder to the wheel.

4. Then work and watch and fight and pray
With all your might and zeal.
Push ev’ry worthy work along;
Put your shoulder to the wheel.

The Family

When the fam’ly gets together, after evening work is done,
Then we learn to know each other, popping corn and having fun.
Then our father tells a story, mother leads us in a song,
And it seems that nothing in this world could possibly go wrong.


FHE Lesson


*For Younger Children* 

Read and use the tips from “He Will Answer”  (taken from the Friend)Testify of the importance of our self reliance, both physical and spiritual. And how the Lord answers our prayers once we have done our all.

Before they call, I will answer (Isaiah 65:24).

It was 1935, and in the middle of the Great Depression. Many men were out of work, so we were lucky that Dad had a job that summer as a miner in the Oro Del Rey Mine. All of us children got to live in a tent in Goshute Canyon. We played in the creek, and we even had a pet horned owl.

But one afternoon, I noticed that my parents looked worried.

“What are we going to do?” Mama asked Dad.
Dad’s shoulders hunched. His face was dusty with dirt from the mine. “I don’t know,” he said. “They’ll pay me eventually. Just not now.”
“Well, we need money,” Mama said. “The children need to eat.”
They were silent. What would we do if Dad didn’t get paid? My sister Carol came over by me. She looked scared, so I squeezed her hand.
Finally, Dad said, “I think we need a family prayer.”
Our whole family knelt in the dirt. Dad said the prayer. He asked Heavenly Father to help us know what we could do.
Afterward, I started walking toward the old wood stove where Mama had put the doughnuts she’d been frying. She made the best doughnuts, all golden brown with flecks of sugar. I was just reaching for one when—
“Stop!” Mama yelled.
I stared at her.
“We can sell them!” she said. “Don’t you think my doughnuts are good enough that people would buy them?”
I nodded. “Of course they are!”
“You kids can take them door to door when you go into town before Primary on Wednesday afternoon,” Mama said.
So that’s what we did. We sold a dozen doughnuts for a dime. We did it week after week.
Then one awful day Mama said, “We’re out of yeast, and I don’t have a penny to buy more.” She sat down and put her head in her hands.
“Are you all right?” I asked.
“Shh,” she whispered. “I’m praying.”
I folded my arms and closed my eyes too.
A few minutes later, Dad pulled up in our old car. He’d been down in the valley getting the mail. He handed a fat envelope to Mama. “What do you think is in that?”
Mama opened it and gave a little gasp. With shining eyes she pulled out a sample packet of yeast!
“But, Mama,” I asked, “when the baking company sent out that sample, you hadn’t even prayed yet.”
“True,” Mama said. “But in Isaiah the Lord says, ‘Before they call, I will answer.’”

Testify of the importance of our self reliance, both physical and spiritual. And how the Lord answers our prayers once we have done our all.


*For All Family Members* 
Read or summarize “Living the Principles of Self Reliance” (taken from the Ensign). Testify of the importance of our self reliance, both physical and spiritual. 

 Luis Quispe, of La Paz, Bolivia, may have sight in only one eye, but he has a clear vision of his goal to be self-reliant and provide for his family. Though he faces economic challenges and health problems, Luis is confident in his future. He does everything he can to help himself while acknowledging his dependence on his Father in Heaven. “I have learned that nothing is impossible when you have our Father’s help,” he says.gardn

Self-Reliance: A Spiritual and Temporal Principle

For the past eight years, this 46-year-old father of six has alternated work and study to gain a degree in agronomy. Luis’s years of study involved traveling about 60 miles (97 km) from his small town of Achacachi to attend the Universidad Mayor de San Andres. Despite this sacrifice, Luis completed his education successfully and is now focused on his next goal of obtaining his own farm.

Luis is a good example of self-reliance in temporal things, such as work, welfare, and food storage. But the principle of self-reliance is as much spiritual as it is temporal. Elder Robert D. Hales of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has defined self-reliance as “taking responsibility for our own spiritual and temporal welfare and for those whom Heavenly Father has entrusted to our care.”

The Lord has said that He has never given a law that was solely temporal (see D&C 29:34–35). Perhaps the command to work is meant as much to bless us spiritually as to provide for us physically (see Genesis 3:17–19).

Spiritual Self-Reliance

The blessings of temporal self-reliance become especially obvious in times of crises such as natural disasters, unemployment, or financial turmoil. But spiritual self-reliance is equally crucial in such times. Those with firm spiritual foundations are blessed with peace, reassurance, and greater faith when calling on Heavenly Father for help.

Church leaders counsel us to prepare for spiritual crises. PresidentBoyd K. Packer, President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, said:

“We have been taught to store … food, clothing, and, if possible, fuel—at home. …

“Can we not see that the same principle applies to inspiration and revelation, the solving of problems, to counsel, and to guidance? …

“If we lose our emotional and spiritual independence, our self-reliance, we can be weakened quite as much, perhaps even more, than when we become dependent materially.”

Giving and Receiving

Self-reliance should not be mistaken for complete independence. After all, we are ultimately dependent on our Heavenly Father for everything (see Mosiah 2:21). We need His continual guidance, preservation, and protection.

We also depend on one another. Since we are given different spiritual gifts, we are expected to share what we have been given so that all may be blessed (see D&C 46:11–12). The key is to become self-reliant where we have the power to do so, to serve others when we can, and to allow others the blessing of serving us as the need arises.

The more self-reliant we are—both spiritually and temporally—the greater our ability to be an agent for good. Elder Hales explained: “Our ultimate goal is to become like the Savior, and that goal is enhanced by our unselfish service to others. Our ability to serve is increased or diminished by the level of our self-reliance.”

A Personal Responsibility

Luis Quispe has seen his perseverance and trust in the Lord result in temporal blessings of work, a college degree, and a stronger family. In turn, those temporal gains have strengthened his faith. He follows the admonition of President Spencer W. Kimball (1895–1985): “No true Latter-day Saint, while physically or emotionally able, will voluntarily shift the burden of his own or his family’s well-being to someone else. So long as he can, under the inspiration of the Lord and with his own labors, he will supply himself and his family with the spiritual and temporal necessities of life.”

Testify of the importance of our self reliance, both physical and spiritual. 


FHE Treat


Home made Fruit Snacks or Sweet And Spicy Pretzels

Home Made Fruit Snacks

Ingredients Homemade Jello Fruit Snacks

  1. 1 (3 oz) package gelatin, any flavor
  2. 2 (.25 oz) envelopes unflavored gelatin
  3. 1/3 c. water


  1. Sprinkle the gelatin over the water in a small saucepan.
  2. Heat over medium heat and stir until gelatin is completely dissolved.
  3. Pour into molds and allow to set at least 20 minutes.

(Taken from SixSistersStuff)


Sweet And Spicy Pretzels


  1. 9 cups Chex cereal
  2. 1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips
  3. 1/2 cup peanut butter
  4. 1/4 cup margarine
  5. 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  6. 1 1/2 cup powdered sugar


  1. Pour cereal into large bowl; set aside.
  2. In 1-quart, microwave-safe bowl combine chocolate chips, peanut butter and margarine.
  3. Microwave at 100-percent power for 1 to 1 1/2 minutes or until smooth, stirring after 1 minute.
  4. Stir in vanilla. Pour chocolate sauce slowly over cereal, stirring to coat evenly.
  5. Pour cereal into large plastic bag. Add powdered sugar and secure; shake to coat well.
  6. Spread on waxed paper to cool.

(Taken from SixSistersStuff)

FHE Game / Activity



1- Start a family garden

2-Family Scavenger Hunt

The idea of a scavenger hunt is to find all the items on a list and return them to a designated place as quickly as possible. There are many ways to organize a hunt and many choices to make. You can play as individuals or on teams either inside the house or outside. Here are a few ideas to try:

  • All items on the list are easily found in the backyard (they can be hidden before the party). Things like a red leaf, matchstick, old bottle or can, feather, etc.
  • Each person or team is given a different list of items to find by asking people around the neighborhood.
  • Alphabet hunt—must find something for each letter of the alphabet.
  • Indoor hunt where each person looks for things and checks them off their list when they find them without picking them up.
  • Newspaper hunt—each person is given a list of words, sentences, advertisements, or photographs that are to be cut out or circled in a newspaper.

From FamilyEducation

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Aleah Ingram
Aleah Ingram
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.


  1. Wanted to let you know that these lessons are so cool. I am a sixty-two year old single woman and feel like a fifth wheel when I go to FHE at other homes ever week. Our ward doen’t have a singles or elderly group FHE. These lessons give me “self-reliance” and allow me to feel like I am doing FHE as directed but not being a constant burden to families of our ward. Thank you for these and please don’t stop them.

    Keep ’em coming!

    • Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. We are so glad that you are able to use our lessons!

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