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Holding Family Councils – FHE Lesson

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D&C 88:123

See that ye love one another; cease to be covetous; learn to impart one to another as the gospel requires.



Teach Me to Walk in the Light, Hymn #304

1. Teach me to walk in the light of his love;
Teach me to pray to my Father above;
Teach me to know of the things that are right;
Teach me, teach me to walk in the light.

2. Come, little child, and together we’ll learn
Of his commandments, that we may return
Home to his presence, to live in his sight–
Always, always to walk in the light.

3. Father in Heaven, we thank thee this day
For loving guidance to show us the way.
Grateful, we praise thee with songs of delight!
Gladly, gladly we’ll walk in the light.



*For Children*

Begin by showing this picture to your family and asking if they know what it is a picture of.


Read aloud: Before we came to Earth, we lived with our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. They had a plan for us to grow and become like them. Before sending us to Earth, they held a council where we learned about the plan. The scriptures say we were so excited, we sang and shouted for joy. Presenting His plan was very important to Heavenly Father; He wanted us to know His plan and make the choice to follow Him of our own free will.

Just as Heavenly Father gathered His family together in heaven, he asks us to hold councils as families.

A family council is when we gather together as a family to discuss problems and solutions. It is also a time to talk about things we may be struggling with or achievements we’ve experienced. For example, if we had a problem around the house, we’d talk about what was causing the problem and what ideas you might have to fix it or make it better.

One of the most important things we can do in a family council is talk about what our family needs and what each person in our family needs.

Ask: What are some things that you’d like to talk about in a family council?

Before the lesson, come up with a list of things to discuss as a family. Ideas include discussing a specific chore that your family has trouble completing, an upcoming family trip, how you can improve your family scripture reading, or juggling busy schedules. Present the problem or idea to your family and ask for ideas or suggestions.

Discuss when and how you will have family councils in the future.

Read aloud: Heavenly Father loves our family and wants us to work together so we can feel the Spirit, learn more about Christ, and be happy. By having family councils, we can grow closer together as a family.


*For Teenagers and Adults*

Begin by reading this quote from “Counsel Together Oft: Family Councils for Couples”:

Councils in the Church follow a divine pattern at every level, from the Council of the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles to stake, ward, branch, quorum, and other leadership councils. “The most basic council of the Church,” said President Spencer W. Kimball (1895–1985), is the family council.

Elder M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles has taught that “family councils are ideal forums for effective communication to take place.” They are, he explained, a time to “talk about the needs of the family and the needs of individual members of the family, … solve problems, make family decisions, [and] plan day-to-day and long-range family activities and goals.”

Ask: Why do you think Heavenly Father would have us hold family councils? How can we relate the other councils of the Church to a family council?

Read aloud: Here are some tips and ideas for holding a family council. Family councils, while they don’t need to be entirely serious, should be set apart from other family activities and be well-defined.

  1. Before the family council, parents may want to make an agenda of things to discuss or pressing issues. Children or other family members often struggle with things that may be embarrassing if addressed in front of the entire family. Discuss each topic with great sensitivity to everyone’s feelings.
  2. During a family council, all family members should be encourage to participate. If struggling for participation, go around in a circle and have everyone share or call on people specifically as the situation needs.
  3. Express the importance of the Spirit. While parents have presiding authority to make decisions, even if not everyone agrees, encourage everyone to pray after the family council is over to understand the decisions made and agreed upon.

Couples without children or single parents should not be discouraged from holding family councils. A family council can easily be applied to any sphere. A parent may wish to talk to their children one on one as part of family councils or couples can apply these principles to their own sphere. When creating your family council, it is important to follow the Spirit and take your family’s need into accounts.

Ask: What do you think would be effective for us in holding a family council?

Work together with your family to create a plan to hold a family council or present the plan you have made. Discuss your love for your family and bear your testimony of how a family council can strengthen your bonds and help your family run smoothly.




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S’Mores Nachos or Candied Grapes

S’Mores Nachos


-1 bag Stacy’s Cinnamon Sugar Pita Chips
-1 c. chocolate chips
-1.5 c. mini marshmallows
-¼ c. chocolate chips
-1 tsp oil


1. Fill a 10″ oven safe skillet or pan with the bag of pita chips. Top with 1 c. chocolate chips then marshmallows. Place in oven and bake at 350° for 6-8 minutes or until marshmallows are golden.

2. Meanwhile, place ¼ c. chocolate chips in microwave safe bowl with the oil (I used coconut) and microwave in 15 second increments until completely melted. Be sure to stir after each increment, so to be sure not to burn the chocolate. Drizzle the melted chocolate over the nachos and enjoy your indoor 10 minute s’mores!

(Courtesy of Krafted Koch)

Candied Grapes

1 box melon fusion jello

1. Remove grapes from stem and rinse with water thoroughly.
2. Strain in a colander.
3. Spread gelatin onto a plate or shallow bowl.
4. Coat grapes in gelatin.
5. Refrigerate for 1 hour to allow gelatin to set.

(Courtesy of A Household Almanac)



Talk and Toss Ball or Upcycling Project


Talk and Toss Ball

Go the dollar store and buy a beach ball. Cover the ball with get to know you questions (you can find a list at the link below). Permanent marker works best. Then, have your family sit in a circle and toss the ball around. You can have them toss to music, and stop it, or just have them toss it to one person. Have them answer whatever question their thumb is nearest. Go until everyone has answered all the questions.

(Courtesy of More than Elementary

Upcycling Project

Have your family work together to turn something old into something new and usable! By using basic household objects or things you would normally throw away, you can teach your family about recycling and working together. Here is a great list of easy and fun upcycling projects your entire family will love.

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Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.

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