For the mothers of LDS missionaries, Mother’s Day is extra special because they are able to talk to their missionary on the phone or through a video call. Here are some tips to make this time with your missionary fulfilling and inspiring.
Respect the rules.
When faced with the joy of talking to your missionary, it may be hard to contain yourself! You’d talk for hours if you could and probably talk about a lot of different things. However, the goal is to provide both you and your missionary comfort and strength. Because of that goal, the Church has outlined some basic rules.
Note that every mission has different rules adapted for their specific needs, so make sure to ask your missionary what they are. If you haven’t had a chance to talk about it already, start of the conversation with asking how long you have to talk and if any other rules have been dictated.
Here is what the Missionary Handbook has to say about these calls home:
You may telephone your parents on Christmas and one other time during the year (usually Mother’s Day), according to guidelines from your mission president. Take care that these calls do not pull your thoughts away from your service or create a financial problem for your family. Keep them short (preferably no longer than 30 or 40 minutes).
Have the electronics prepared ahead of time.
It’d be terrible to waste any precious time you have with your missionary trying to figure out electronics! Test out computer screens, practice conference calling, and do all you can to make sure everything is setup on your end. There isn’t much you can do from your missionary’s end, but being more prepared will help the call run smoothly.
Questions to ask your missionary.
Make the most out of your time together and keep on appropriate topics by asking some specific questions. Here are a few examples:
- How is the work going in your area right now?
- What is your favorite thing about your companion?
- What is one thing we can pray for right now for you and your area?
- What are some of the goals your mission has set?
- How do you feel you’ve grown the most on your mission so far?
Be prepared to do some of the talking.
Missionaries need a bit of home just as much as we need a bit of them. We may want them to do all of the talking, but you can edify your missionary by giving them a little bit of information about what is going on back home. Here are some suggestions that will help you talk about home without making them homesick:
- Discuss any major changes. Has someone changed schools, gone through a major medical procedure, or made a big life decision? Briefly fill your missionary in and let them know how it is going.
- Have each member of the family who is watching the goal give a one sentence update on their life.
- Share any missionary experiences you’ve had or how their mission service has been impacting you back home.
- If you have missionaries serving in your ward, tell your missionary what you appreciate most about them.
Ask your missionary to bear their testimony.
If it feels right for your family, ask your missionary to bear their testimony. You can even record the audio or the video screen as a powerful memento of their missionary service. It is a great opportunity to share in the special service of missionary service. If time permits, you can bear your testimony as well.
End the call with a prayer. Specifically, pray for your missionary and their area. There is nothing more powerful than hearing someone pray in your behalf. It will be a sweet way to end the call on a spiritual high note and keep you going until that next phone call.
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.