This FHE lesson on grief helps identify the feelings associated with mourning, how to have empathy, and how to offer comfort and support.
Yea, and are willing to mourn with those that mourn; yea, and comfort those that stand in need of comfort…
Abide with Me! | Hymn #166
1. Abide with me! fast falls the eventide;
The darkness deepens. Lord, with me abide!
When other helpers fail and comforts flee,
Help of the helpless, oh, abide with me!
2. Swift to its close ebbs out life’s little day.
Earth’s joys grow dim; its glories pass away.
Change and decay in all around I see;
O thou who changest not, abide with me!
3. I need thy presence ev’ry passing hour.
What but thy grace can foil the tempter’s pow’r?
Who, like thyself, my guide and stay can be?
Thru cloud and sunshine, Lord, abide with me!
Begin the lesson by asking the children to describe a time when they lost something very important to them. Ask them how the experience made them feel.
Read aloud: In life, we will experience many types of loss. We can lose things, like our toys, car keys, and phones. We can lose things we can’t touch, like faith and hope. One of the hardest things to lose is people. Sometimes, we can lose people, like our friends, to fighting and anger. We can also lose people to death.
Whatever the loss, it hurts very much.
If possible, describe the loss of a loved one the children will have experienced themselves. You can also describe a time when you lost someone and how it made you feel. Discuss feeling words, such as grief, sadness, and confusion.
Read aloud: Everyone in the world experiences these feelings of grief and sadness. Jesus Christ wants us to help each other during these hard times.
Ask: What are some things that other people do that help you when you’re sad or upset?
Describe a time in your life when someone helped you during a time of grief.
Ask: What can we do to comfort others?
Finish the lesson by making an action plan to serve anyone in need (see activity below) and bearing your testimony.
FOR TEENS & ADULTS
Begin the lesson by watching the following video. Ask everyone to think about the different types of things that people did to serve.
Read aloud: When someone experiences grief for any reason, it can be intimidating. A time of mourning is a sacred time when emotions are raw and faith is stretched. It is not always easy to know how to serve those who mourn. We can feel inadequate or fearful. We don’t want to say the wrong thing or make the situation worse. Often, we don’t feel anything we could do could possibly help in such a trying time.
However, Jesus Christ has commanded us to mourn with those that mourn and comfort those that need comfort. We need to be brave and filled with the spirit of Jesus Christ in order to step forward and serve in such a way.
Ask: What experiences have you had comforting someone or being comforted yourself?
Read aloud: Jesus Christ knows our needs and the needs of those around us. Through diligent prayer and study, we can learn how to act in an appropriate and effective way.
Ask: What are some ways we can truly mourn with those that mourn?
Finish the lesson by bearing your testimony.
FOR SINGLE STUDY
Read accounts in the scriptures where people grieved and were comforted. Especially study the actions of Christ. Ask how they were comforted and how you can do the same in your life. Spend some time in thought and prayer for specific people in your life you know who are in need.
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for the pretzels:
2 cups fruit of choice
2 tbsp honey
2 tbsp lemon juice
- Blend fruit in food processor or blender until smooth. Mix in sweetener and lemon juice.
- Pour into a pan lined with plastic wrap then spread out ⅛ to ¼ inch thick.
- Dehydrate in oven at 140 to 170 degrees F (60 to 75 degrees C, or as low as oven will go) for 4 to 6 hours, or until middle is no longer tacky.
- Allow to cool, then remove from plastic wrap.
- With clean scissors, trim off edges then cut into 1 inch wide strips.
- Wrap with strips of parchment or tissue paper, then use tape or string to seal.
(Courtesy of liveeatlearn.com)
Gather up materials such as construction paper, markers, pens, pencils, and scissors. Have everyone make a card for someone in need.
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.