This FHE Lesson on respect is about how important words are and how using respectful language helps us treat people like children of God.
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.
1. Let us oft speak kind words to each other
At home or where’er we may be;
Like the warblings of birds on the heather,
The tones will be welcome and free.
They’ll gladden the heart that’s repining,
Give courage and hope from above,
And where the dark clouds hide the shining,
Let in the bright sunlight of love.
Oh, the kind words we give shall in memory live
And sunshine forever impart.
Let us oft speak kind words to each other;
Kind words are sweet tones of the heart.
2. Like the sunbeams of morn on the mountains,
The soul they awake to good cheer;
Like the murmur of cool, pleasant fountains,
They fall in sweet cadences near.
Let’s oft, then, in kindly toned voices,
Our mutual friendship renew,
Till heart meets with heart and rejoices
In friendship that ever is true.
Begin the lesson by asking children what are some different words we use for different people. This can be a humorous exercise to get them giggling and listening before the lesson. Examples include baby talk for babies, flowery romantic language for husbands and wives, and screaming noises when riding roller coasters.
Read aloud: We use words all of the time! We use words to convey feelings, ask for help, and to learn and to teach. We speak to friends, to family, to strangers, and to teachers. No matter who we are talking to or what situation we are in, we should always use respectful words.
Ask: What does the word respect mean?
Read aloud: Respect means we honor and admire someone. We support and sustain them. We should show respect to everyone because we are all children of God. We especially need to respect our leaders and teachers. This can be our school teachers, our teachers at church, and our parents.
Ask: Can you think of some examples of respectful words? [Please, thank you, you’re welcome, I’m sorry.]
Read aloud: Using respectful words helps us be more like Jesus Christ. We are able to build friendships and treat people like God would when we use respectful words.
Brainstorm some real-life examples with the children about when they can use respectful words. It can be with a teacher, with a sibling, or with someone who is being mean. Go over what words they can use in that situation.
Finish the lesson by bearing your testimony about why being respectful helps us feel the Holy Ghost.
For Teens & Adults
Begin the lesson by reading the following quote from the Prophet Joseph Smith: “Search yourselves—the tongue is an unruly member—hold your tongues about things of no moment—a little tale will set the world on fire.”
Ask: Why are the words we use important? Has there been a time in your life when the words someone used affected you for good or for bad?
Read aloud: The words we use convey how we feel about other people. Whether our words are loving, sarcastic, unkind, short, or loud, they are a clear reflection of our inner attitudes about the person we are talking to. Because everyone is a child of our Heavenly Father, we should strive to show them respect as we interact with them.
Ask: What does it mean to use respectful language?
Read aloud: It isn’t always easy to treat others with respect. It can be hard to control our words. Even when we use kind words, we can often be sarcastic or disingenuous in tone or meaning.
Ask: How can we treat others with respect when it is really hard to do so?
Finish the lesson by sharing any personal experiences and bearing your testimony.
For Single Study
Think about a situation where someone was disrespectful to you. Write down how it made you feel. Ponder ways you can use more respectful language and make a goal that week. Use the following LDS.org web page for more to read and study.
-1 box Chex™ blueberry flavored cereal
-1 1/4 cups white vanilla baking chips
-1/4 cup butter or margarine
-4 teaspoons grated lemon peel
-2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
-2 cups powered sugar
- In large bowl, place cereal.
- In small microwavable bowl, microwave baking chips, butter, lemon peel and lemon juice uncovered on High 1 minute 30 seconds, stirring every 30 seconds, until melted and smooth. Pour lemon mixture over cereal; stir until evenly coated.
- Pour into 2-gallon resealable food-storage plastic bag. Add powdered sugar. Seal bag; gently shake until well coated. Spread evenly on parchment paper or waxed paper. Cool completely, about 30 minutes. Store in airtight container.
(Courtesy of chex.com)
Who Is It?
To play this game, blindfold someone and have them stand in the middle of a circle. On the word “Go,” they must reach out and try to touch someone. When they touch someone, they must ask, “Who is it?” The person must reply by saying “It is I” in as funny and as weird a voice as possible. If the person in the middle guesses correctly, the person they nabbed is it. If not, they continue on until they guess someone correctly.
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.