This FHE lesson on honesty helps teach us how to discuss and share negative feelings such as hurt or anger. Communicating honestly helps us build stronger relationships.
But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.
1. Come, ye disconsolate, where’er ye languish;
Come to the mercy seat, fervently kneel.
Here bring your wounded hearts; here tell your anguish.
Earth has no sorrow that heav’n cannot heal.
2. Joy of the desolate, Light of the straying,
Hope of the penitent, fadeless and pure!
Here speaks the Comforter, tenderly saying,
“Earth has no sorrow that heav’n cannot cure.”
3. Here see the Bread of Life; see waters flowing
Forth from the throne of God, pure from above.
Come to the feast of love; come, ever knowing
Earth has no sorrow but heav’n can remove.
Begin the lesson by asking the children for positive emotions, such as happy, peaceful, and excited. Write them down on one side of a board so everyone can see. Then ask them to list negative emotions, such as hurt, anger, disappointment, or jealousy.
Read aloud: We all experience emotions. Sometimes, we have emotions that make us feel good. Sometimes, we have emotions that make us feel bad.
Ask: What are some signs you are feeling hurt or angry?
Share an experience where you got mad or upset.
Read aloud: Heavenly Father knows we have lots of emotions. He wants us to have help when we aren’t feeling very good. One way we can do this is through honesty. Heavenly Father wants us to be honest in all things. While we normally talk about not lying or stealing or cheating, honesty can also mean talking about our feelings.
Ask: Do you feel like you can talk about your feelings? How do you react when you feel hurt or anger?
Read aloud: When we have an emotion that isn’t making us feel very good, we can talk about it with someone we trust. Sometimes, we may even have to tell someone else they did something mean that hurt our feelings.
Finish the lesson with the children about how they can talk to a trusted adult or friend. If applicable, you can focus on conflict resolution and expressing anger rather than seeking a safe place to share emotions.
Assert you as a parent or parent-figure will always be willing to listen to them about their feelings.
FOR TEENS & ADULTS
Begin the lesson by asking the group to share things they struggle talking about with others.
Have someone read the following quote from Elder Neal A. Maxwell.
“One of the biggest blocks to Christian communication is that we are so afraid of being misunderstood. So, when in doubt, we withhold. Yet Paul said to speak the truth in love; we can then take the chance. We worry (and understandably so) that some communications will only produce more distance. But silence is very risky, too.”
Ask: Why do you think Elder Maxwell says silence can be risky?
Read aloud: Honesty doesn’t just pertain to lying or cheating. It also pertains to how we communicate and share with others. Because we are human, we experience many complex emotions and experiences. Opening up about these things is also a way to be honest. It’s also important to receive the support we need through Christ-like relationships.
Ask: Have you had an experience where you were able to open up to someone? What was it like and how did you feel afterward?
Share an experience where you either did or did not open up and how it impacted you.
Ask: How can we communicate more honestly with one another?
Finish the lesson by bearing your testimony of honest communication.
FOR SINGLE STUDY
Read through these scriptures on communication. Write down some of the things you’d like to share more with others. Prayerfully consider if there is someone you can reach out to today.
Easy Cinnamon Drop Biscuits
15 ounces buttermilk biscuit mix
1 cup water
8 teaspoons pure cane sugar
2 teaspoons cinnamon
2 tablespoons salted butter
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
3 cups powdered sugar
1/4 cup whole milk
- Pre-heat your oven to 425°F.
- First mix the sugar and cinnamon together in a small bowl.
- Add the biscuit mix and water to a separate large bowl.
- Before mixing, go ahead and add in the cinnamon/sugar; then mix everything together really well.
- Drop the biscuits onto a baking sheet, about 1 to 2 inches apart.
- Bake at 425° for 8 to 11 minutes (oven times may vary), until the biscuits turn golden brown.
- Meanwhile, mix up a simple powdered sugar frosting, combining the softened butter, vanilla extract, powdered sugar, and milk in a medium mixing bowl.
- When the biscuits are done, remove them from the oven. While they’re still hot, brush the icing on, and let it melt into each biscuit.
- Serve warm and enjoy!
(Courtesy of adventuresofmel.com)
Write down emotion words on a slip of paper. Here is a list of many different words. You can make the words easier or harder depending on the age of the group. Have people act out the emotion while others try to guess it.
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.