“Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:”
1. Savior, may I learn to love thee,
Walk the path that thou hast shown,
Pause to help and lift another,
Finding strength beyond my own.
Savior, may I learn to love thee–
Lord, I would follow thee.
2. Who am I to judge another
When I walk imperfectly?
In the quiet heart is hidden
Sorrow that the eye can’t see.
Who am I to judge another?–
Lord, I would follow thee.
3. I would be my brother’s keeper;
I would learn the healer’s art.
To the wounded and the weary
I would show a gentle heart.
I would be my brother’s keeper–
Lord, I would follow thee.
4. Savior, may I love my brother
As I know thou lovest me,
Find in thee my strength, my beacon,
For thy servant I would be.
Savior, may I love my brother–
Lord, I would follow thee.
*For Younger Children*
Show the above picture and read the following aloud: Sometimes we find ourselves thinking unkind thoughts like, “That boy’s clothes are so old and not clean. Ew!” or “Why does my sister keep borrowing my clothes? They aren’t hers!” These thoughts are not nice. We should do better to remember that everyone is a Child of God and deserves for us to think and say nice things to them.
President Dieter F. Uchdorf taught us a great lesson. He said, “ When we feel hurt, angry, or envious, it is quite easy to judge people. This topic could actually be taught in a two-word sermon. When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following: Stop it!”
Even though we’re not supposed to judge others, we also have to remember to have good judgement that helps us to make sure we’re in places where we can feel the Spirit. Use good judgement to make sure you’re in a place and with people you can feel the Spirit. Use good judgement when you choose your good friends and those you choose to surround yourself with.
Distribute the following test to see how each family member can become more loving to others and not judge others unkindly.
Your little sister got into your room and spilled some paint from your new art set. She apologized, but you’re still angry. You:
a. Genuinely accept the apology and ask her to talk to you next time she wants to use your art set.
b. Say it’s OK, but tell her to never come in your room again.
c. Decide to break something of hers to make things fair.
Someone said something mean about the new boy at school. You:
a. Don’t tell anyone what you heard and try to make the new boy feel welcome.
b. Say nothing, but don’t welcome him.
c. Find out if it’s true. If it is, you can tell everyone!
Someone new is visiting Primary. You:
a. Invite her to sit with you and your friends.
b. Do nothing.
c. Whisper to your friend that her hair looks weird.
Your brother got a great model airplane for his birthday—the one you wanted. He asks if you like it. You:
a. Are happy for him. He’s lucky to have such a great toy.
b. Don’t say anything. It’s not your job to compliment him.
c. Think about the plane all the time. He doesn’t deserve it!
Your classmate got a part in the school play, and you’re the understudy for the same part. You:
a. Help her learn her lines. You want the play to be great!
b. Sulk, but don’t say anything.
c. Hope that she gets sick so you can be the star of the show.
If you chose mostly a’s: You’re doing a good job of loving others. Keep welcoming others and being happy for their success.
If you chose mostly b’s: You could improve in showing love for others. Remember, it’s not enough to not be mean—you want to be kind! Try complimenting others and helping them be happy.
If you chose mostly c’s: Stop it! Pray for help to have kind thoughts, and do extra things to bless those around you. Remember that we’re all children of God.
This test is from the Friend magazine and can be found here.
*For Teenagers or Adults*
Read aloud: It is easier as we gain life experience to judge others for what they do wrong and what they do not know. We must learn that it is not our place to judge others and withhold forgiveness, ridicule them, belittle them, ignore them, etc. President Dieter F. Uchtdorf bluntly states, “This topic of judging others could actually be taught in a two-word sermon. When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following: Stop it!
It’s that simple. We simply have to stop judging others and replace judgmental thoughts and feelings with a heart full of love for God and His children. God is our Father. We are His children. We are all brothers and sisters. I don’t know exactly how to articulate this point of not judging others with sufficient eloquence, passion, and persuasion to make it stick. I can quote scripture, I can try to expound doctrine, and I will even quote a bumper sticker I recently saw. It was attached to the back of a car whose driver appeared to be a little rough around the edges, but the words on the sticker taught an insightful lesson. It read, “Don’t judge me because I sin differently than you.”
We must recognize that we are all imperfect—that we are beggars before God. Haven’t we all, at one time or another, meekly approached the mercy seat and pleaded for grace? Haven’t we wished with all the energy of our souls for mercy—to be forgiven for the mistakes we have made and the sins we have committed?
Because we all depend on the mercy of God, how can we deny to others any measure of the grace we so desperately desire for ourselves? My beloved brothers and sisters, should we not forgive as we wish to be forgiven?” (The full talk can be found here.)
Ask the following questions:
-What things can you do to fill your heart full of the love of God so you don’t judge others?
-What can you do as a family to try and help each other not judge others?
Read aloud: We are also taught to use good judgement to ensure we are in wholesome environments where we can feel the Spirit’s promptings. How do we not judge others, yet use good judgement? Brother Gregory A. Schwitzer of the Second Quorum of the Seventy clearly explains how we can achieve both righteous goals:
Good judgment is needed not only in understanding people but also in facing decisions that often lead us to or away from our Heavenly Father. As I look back over my own personal life, I can see many instances in which a slight change of course based on poor judgment would have led me far from where the Lord wanted me to be—decisions like having a family while obtaining an education, being active in all aspects of the gospel, paying tithes and offerings when income was severely limited, and accepting callings at difficult times, which helped me to understand more about sacrifice. Many blessings in life are missed because worldly judgment was applied to what was really a spiritual decision.
There are many characteristics of people who have developed good judgment. I would offer four guides for developing such judgment in making important decisions.
First, put your own personal standards in alignment with the gospel of Jesus Christ. A person can never be a good judge without the gospel of Jesus Christ as a reference. The gospel has a long and successful record of guiding people to happiness. Some of the world’s ideas leave mankind adrift to try to define their own standards. Because of this, we hear phrases like “a new morality.” This phrase is deceptive! The standards of morality are eternal and have not changed; neither should we try to discover a new interpretation of them. For the youth these standards are written in the pamphlet For the Strength of Youth. These standards are clearly aligned with the gospel of Jesus Christ and are intended to continue through adult life. Perhaps it would be good for us as adults to study and apply this pamphlet to our lives.
Second, listen to the messages of the living prophet. How many poor financial judgments would have been avoided had we listened to the years of advice given through our prophets about avoiding risky speculation and following a careful budget to avoid consumer debt? How many marriages would have been saved by using good judgment in avoiding media that lead to pornographic addiction and heartache? Each general conference and Church magazine contains advice from the prophets which, if applied, will lead us to good judgment. We are left without excuse when we ignore them.
Third, cultivate with the Holy Spirit a relationship of listening. We are given the gift of the Holy Ghost after our baptism, but often we leave this gift on the shelf, forgetting that He will help us in the most important judgments of our lives. The Lord gave us this gift, knowing we would face difficult decisions in life. Listening to this voice is vital in developing good judgment. A relationship of listening often requires a quiet environment in which we can take time to ponder and hear the still, small voice. This peaceful environment is both external and internal. Therefore, it is more than shutting off the music of the world or the blare of other media; it is also shutting off the noise of sin that is internal to our soul. This will open the communication with the Spirit, which is so badly needed.
Christ said: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” 4 The peace that comes from listening to the Holy Spirit removes the fear of making a poor judgment in life.
Fourth, keep the commandments. The willingness to keep God’s commandments opens to us many promised blessings. The Book of Mormon, in addition to being another testament of Jesus Christ, is a book about the results of keeping and not keeping commandments. The Lord said to Nephi in the second chapter of his first book, “Inasmuch as ye shall keep my commandments, ye shall prosper.” (The full talk can also be found here.)
Discuss with your family how you can avoid making unchristlike judgement and learn to make Christlike judgments that invite the Spirit.
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I am a Child of God Necklace
Adjustable I am a Child of God Ring
- 4-6 apples
- 1/4 cup brown sugar
- 1 teaspoon cinnamon
- ¼ cup chopped walnuts or pecans
- 1/4 cup raisins, currants, or dried cranberries
- 1 Tablespoon butter (divided)
- 3/4 cup boiling water
- Preheat oven to 375 degrees.
- In a small bowl add sugar, cinnamon, nuts and raisins and stir to combine.
- Prepare apples by washing well and cutting out just the core. An apple corer is very helpful if you have one.
- Once the cores are removed, place apples into a baking dish (9″x9″ or similar). Stuff each apple with sugar mixture, pressing as much into the cavity as you are able. Any excess mixture can just be sprinkled into the bottom of the dish.
- Cut the Tablespoon of butter into 4 or 6 pieces and press a piece of butter onto the top of each filled apple (as pictured in blog post).
- Pour very hot/boiling water into the baking dish, pouring around the apples, not directly on top of the apples.
- Bake in preheated oven for 30-40 minutes until apples are tender, but not mushy.
Allow to cool slightly, then enjoy as is or topped with whipped cream or vanilla ice cream. Any apples leftover can be stored in the refrigerator and heated in the microwave the following day
(Recipe From GloriousTreats)
Fudgy Marshmallow Brownies
- 1 cup of butter
- 2 cups of sugar
- 1/2 cup cocoa
- 4 eggs
- 1 1/2 cups flour
- 1/4 tsp salt
- 2 teaspoons of vanilla
- 5 cups of mini marshmallows
1. 3 cups of powdered sugar
2. 1/2 cup of cocoa
3. 1/3 cup of milk
4. 1/2 cup of butter
5. 1 teaspoon of vanilla
- Cream butter with sugar and cocoa.
- Add eggs one at a time and beat after each one.
- Add flour, salt, vanilla and mix together.
- Spread into bottom of greased 9 x 13 pan. Cook at 350 for 20-25 minutes.
- Remove from oven and cover with marshmallows.
- Put back in oven for 3 minutes or until marshmallows puff up and begin to melt.
- Don’t let them brown. Remove from oven and allow to cool for 5-10 minutes.
- Cover with frosting.
1. Mix all frosting ingredients together and spread over cake
(Recipe From YourHomeBasedMom)
Indoor Foot Volley Ball or Marshmallow Skyscrapers
What you’ll need:
-Yarn or string
-10-inch inflated balloonHow to Play:
1. To play, first tie a piece of yarn or string across a 10-foot playing area, about 1 foot above the floor. Divide the players into two teams and have them set up crab style (faceup, leaning on their hands and feet) in their stocking feet on each side of the string.
2. Use a coin toss to determine which team will serve first, then ahve one player on that team launch the balloon into the air for a teammate to kick over the string to their opponents.
3. The teams kick the balloon back and forth, taking all the hits they need to send the balloon to the other side. If one team elts the balloon touch the floor, the other team ears one point and restarts the game by serving the balloon from their side. The first team to reach 15 points wins. (From Spoonful)
What you’ll need: Toothpicks, little and/or large marshmallows
How to play: Provide each member of the family with toothpicks and marshmallows. Let each person create their own skyscraper masterpiece. Each child can win an award for their individual accomplishments. You can also do this activity in teams with your family. (From QueenOfThemePartyGames)
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.