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Envy is a strong word. When people talked about being “envious,” I knew it would never describe me. So when I listened to Elder Jeffrey R. Holland’s talk “The Laborers in the Vineyard” in the April 2012 general conference, I didn’t really think he was talking to me... Check out this family home evening lesson on Envy! Scripture: Alma 5:29 Hymn: Love at Home Lesson: The envy I Never thought I Had Treat: Green Cheesecake Bars & Banana Dippers Activity: Family Olympics, Charades View entire lesson...

Stripped of Envy

FHE Scripture

Scripture


Alma 5:29

“29 Behold, I say, is there one among you who is not stripped of envy? I say unto you that such an one is not prepared; and I would that he should prepare  quickly, for the hour is close at hand, and he knoweth not when the time shall come; for such an one is not found guiltless.”

FHE Lesson Hymn

Hymn


Love at Home- Hymns #294

1. There is beauty all around
When there’s love at home;
There is joy in ev’ry sound
When there’s love at home.
Peace and plenty here abide,
Smiling sweet on ev’ry side.
Time doth softly, sweetly glide
When there’s love at home.
Love at home, love at home;
Time doth softly, sweetly glide
When there’s love at home.

2. In the cottage there is joy
When there’s love at home;
Hate and envy ne’er annoy
When there’s love at home.
Roses bloom beneath our feet;
All the earth’s a garden sweet,
Making life a bliss complete
When there’s love at home.
Love at home, love at home;
Making life a bliss complete
When there’s love at home.

3. Kindly heaven smiles above
When there’s love at home;
All the world is filled with love
When there’s love at home.
Sweeter sings the brooklet by;
Brighter beams the azure sky.
Oh, there’s One who smiles on high
When there’s love at home.
Love at home, love at home;
Oh, there’s One who smiles on high
When there’s love at home.

FHE Lesson

Lesson

*For Younger Children* Read or share part of Does Heavenly Father love others more than He loves me? Discuss the importance of knowing Heavenly Father loves us all equally and why we should not be envious of others.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles shares some of his thoughts on this subject.

Does Heavenly Father love others more than He loves me?

Someone or something is forever telling us we need to be more handsome or more wealthy, more applauded or more admired than we see ourselves as being. We are told we haven’t collected enough possessions or gone to enough fun places. … But God does not work this way.

No one of us is less treasured or cherished of God than another.

He loves each of us—insecurities, anxieties, self-image, and all.

He doesn’t measure our talents or our looks; He doesn’t measure our professions or our possessions. He cheers on every runner.

Walk peacefully. Walk confidently. Walk without fear and without envy. Be reassured of Heavenly Father’s abundance to you always.

 

*For The Whole Family*  Read through and share some from The envy I Never thought I Had Discuss the way in which we may be envious of others wihout knowing and why it is important to rid ourselves of those feelings.

It didn’t seem fair that Dad made things much easier for my sister than he did for me.

father and daughters

Illustration by Steven Keele

Envy is a strong word. When people talked about being “envious,” I knew it would never describe me. So when I listened to Elder Jeffrey R. Holland’s talk “The Laborers in the Vineyard” in the April 2012 general conference, I didn’t really think he was talking to me. I tried to think of things I would occasionally be jealous of—someone’s dress, my friend’s bag, or my sister’s good grade. Yet all of these things came and went quickly; I never thought I dwelled on jealousy.

But as I went back and read Elder Holland’s words, his paraphrasing of a line from a parable stuck out to me: “Why should you be jealous because Ichoose to be kind?” (Ensign, May 2012, 31). Now, this was a different type of jealousy—not about material things but about someone’s choices. I began to think of the many times I may have been envious of my siblings, and then it clicked: this is exactly what I have been struggling with.

My little sister Mary is about to move out and start her first year in college, so I was talking to my dad about where she would work this summer. I knew he most likely had three jobs lined up for her like he had for me, because when I graduated from high school he made it very clear that if I planned on going to college, I would need a summer job. This was stressed so much that I even started a job the day of my graduation. I worked hard all summer and earned the money to pay my way through school. So naturally, when I was talking to my dad about Mary’s summer before college, I expected to hear the same story.

To my surprise, my dad explained that Mary would just be working at her part-time job until June and then take the summer off before school. Immediately several thoughts came to mind: “What about paying for school by yourself? How is she going to afford tuition? And what about paying for that nice apartment she’s decided to move into?” This just wasn’t fair.

I don’t know why it bothered me so much, but I let it continue to affect me. That is, until I reread Elder Holland’s conference talk. I read the question: “Why should you be jealous because I choose to be kind?” This time I changed it to fit my situation and asked myself: “Why should I be jealous that my parents are being kind to my sister?” Still a little upset, I then thought, “Well, why didn’t they show that kindness to me?”

I sat there pondering my emotions and then read through Elder Holland’s words again. This time I realized what I was missing: I had been looking for everything to be fair. In my eyes, the same thing that worked for me was obviously the right choice for the rest of my siblings. But Mary isn’t me. Mary is much more of a homebody than I am, and I started realizing how the transition to college might be tougher on her than it was for me. Maybe having a few months just to spend with my family is something she needs.

I suddenly felt embarrassed about my envious thoughts. Elder Holland compared envy with “downing another quart of pickle juice every time anyone around you has a happy moment” (Ensign, May 2012, 32), and that is not how I want to be.

I am so grateful for general conference and the inspired messages that are shared. I know that if we open our hearts to the messages of the living prophets and prayerfully search through their words several times, we will find what God wants us to hear at this time in our lives.

 

FHE Treat

Treat


Green Cheesecake Bars & Banana Dippers

Green with Envy Cheesecake Bars

IngredientsGreenCheesCk

  1. 1 1/2 cups chocolate wafer cookie crumbs (about 30 cookies)
  2. 1/3 cup butter, melted
  3. 3 packages (8oz) cream cheese, softened
  4. 1 cup sugar
  5. 1/2 cup sour cream
  6. 1 teaspoon Peppermint Extract
  7. 1/2 teaspoon green food coloring
  8. 3 eggs
  9. 2oz semi-sweet baking chocolate, melted

Instructions:

  1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Mix cookie crumbs and butter. Press firmly onto bottom of foil-lined 9-inch square baking pan. Refrigerate until ready to use.
  2. Beat cream cheese and sugar in large bowl with electric mixer on medium speed until well blended. Add sour cream and peppermint extract; mix well. Add eggs, 1 at a time, beating on low speed after each addition just until blended. Pour 1/2 of the batter over crust. Tint remaining batter green with food color. Pour over batter in pan.
  3. Bake 25 to 30 minutes or until center is almost set. Cool completely on wire rack.
  4. Refrigerate 4 hours or overnight. Lift out of pan onto cutting board. Cut into bars. Drizzle bars with melted chocolate. Store leftover bars in refrigerator.

(From McCormick )


Banana Dippers

Ingredientsbanadip

  1. 2 Bananas
  2. Peanut Butter
  3. Your Favorite Granola Mix

Instructions

  1. Cut Bananas Into 1 1/2 inches chunks.
  2. Spread One end of each with about 1/2 teaspoon peanut butter
  3. Dip in your favorite granola mix

(From Food Network )

FHE Game / Activity

Activity

  1. Have your own Olympic Games, even more fun if you do it with extended family!
  2. Play a game of charades based on your favorite seasonal events or words!

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Aleah Ingram
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a social media manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and is addicted to organic milk, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.

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