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For the Strength of Youth reminds us: “Dishonesty harms you and harms others as well. If you lie, steal, shoplift, or cheat, you damage your spirit and your relationships with others. Being honest will enhance your future opportunities and your ability to be guided by the Holy Ghost.” Check out this great family home evening lesson on Integrity! Scripture: Alma 53:20 Hymn: Do What Is Right Lesson: Honesty & Integrity Treat: Lemonade Pie or Cowboy Quesadillas Activity: What would you do? quiz •View entire lesson...

Integrity and Honesty

FHE Scripture

Scripture

Alma 53:20

“20 And they were all young men, and they were exceedingly valiant for courage, and also for strength and activity; but behold, this was not all—they were men who were true at all times in whatsoever thing they were entrusted.”

FHE Lesson Hymn

Hymn

Do What Is Right  Hymn #237

1. Do what is right; the day-dawn is breaking,
Hailing a future of freedom and light.
Angels above us are silent notes taking
Of ev’ry action; then do what is right!

(Chorus)
Do what is right; let the consequence follow.
Battle for freedom in spirit and might;
And with stout hearts look ye forth till tomorrow.
God will protect you; then do what is right!

2. Do what is right; the shackles are falling.
Chains of the bondsmen no longer are bright;
Lightened by hope, soon they’ll cease to be galling.
Truth goeth onward; then do what is right!

3. Do what is right; be faithful and fearless.
Onward, press onward, the goal is in sight.
Eyes that are wet now, ere long will be tearless.
Blessings await you in doing what’s right!

 

FHE Lesson

Lesson

*For All Family Members* 

Read “Honesty & Integrity” by Elder Christoffel Golden Jr. and discuss the importance of integrity and honesty. Use the activities to illustrate this principle.

As a disciple of Christ, these personal attributes are expressions of who you actually are.

Honesty & Integrity

At a conference championship game of American football, Joseph B. Wirthlin had what he called “a defining experience” during a crucial play.

“The play called for me to run the ball up the middle to score the go-ahead touchdown,” he said. “I took the handoff and plunged into the line. I knew I was close to the goal line, but I didn’t know how close. Although I was pinned at the bottom of the pile, I reached my fingers forward a couple of inches and I could feel it. The goal line was two inches (5 cm) away.football

“At that moment I was tempted to push the ball forward. I could have done it. … But then I remembered the words of my mother. ‘Joseph,’ she had often said to me, ‘do what is right, no matter the consequence. Do what is right and things will turn out OK.’

“I wanted so desperately to score that touchdown. But more than being a hero in the eyes of my friends, I wanted to be a hero in the eyes of my mother. And so I left the ball where it was—two inches from the goal line.” Elder Wirthlin (1917–2008) later served as a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles.

Doing What Is Right

Elder Wirthlin’s decision is an excellent example of someone who would not compromise his integrity. Honesty and integrity test our character. They require a person always to do or say the right thing no matter the circumstances or what others may think.

One of the standards in For the Strength of Youth is honesty and integrity. As Latter-day Saints and followers of Christ, you are expected to “be honest with yourself, others, and God at all times. Being honest means choosing not to lie, steal, cheat, or deceive in any way. …

“Closely associated with honesty is integrity. Integrity means thinking and doing what is right at all times, no matter what the consequences. When you have integrity, you are willing to live by your standards and beliefs even when no one is watching.”

Becoming a Disciple

Our purpose during this probationary state of mortal life is to become “a saint through the atonement of Christ” (Mosiah 3:19). To become a saint is nothing more or less than becoming a true disciple of Christ. This is not as difficult as you may suppose; you probably already know how to do it. However, it does take effort, and sometimes this effort requires a great deal from us. But it can be done.

The Book of Mormon teaches, “For behold, the Spirit of Christ is given to every man, that he may know good from evil; wherefore, I show unto you the way to judge; for every thing which inviteth to do good, and to persuade to believe in Christ, is sent forth by the power and gift of Christ; wherefore ye may know with a perfect knowledge it is of God” (Moroni 7:16).

As a disciple of Christ you can discover how to speak and act by asking yourself, “What would Jesus do?” Impressions will follow, and as you act on these impressions, you will receive a witness for yourself that you have acted correctly. However, it is also true that sometimes you may need to wait for a while to see the true consequences and blessings of your honest actions.

Being Completely Honest

For the Strength of Youth reminds us: “Dishonesty harms you and harms others as well. If you lie, steal, shoplift, or cheat, you damage your spirit and your relationships with others. Being honest will enhance your future opportunities and your ability to be guided by the Holy Ghost.”

The true measure of sincere integrity and complete honesty is what you do when no one is around to know what you think, say, or do. As true disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ, we cannot be or do less than the Savior has shown us. We have the incomparable gift of the Holy Ghost. The Savior taught, “But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you” (John 14:26).

Our Savior has also given us great power that comes from daily prayer, scripture study, and reading the words of the living prophets and apostles. These positive daily practices build honesty and integrity in us. Remember, as a disciple of Christ and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, your honesty is an expression of your integrity and who you actually are.

Discuss the importance of integrity and honesty. Use the activities to illustrate this principle. 

 

FHE Treat

Treat

Lemonade Pie or Cowboy Quesadillas

Lemonade Pie (In a Jar)

Ingredientslemonadepie

  1. 1 1/2 cups graham cracker crumbs*
  2. 1/3 cup sugar*
  3. 6 tablespoons melted butter*
    *If desired, you can use a prepared graham cracker crust or several of the small prepared graham cracker tart crusts.
  4. 12 ounces (1 1/2 small containers) of  Whipped Topping
  5. 1 14-ounce can sweetened condensed milk
  6. 8 ounces thawed (but still cold) lemonade concentrate
  7. Optional: 1-2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
  8. Optional: 4 drops red food coloring and 1 drop yellow food coloring
  9. 8 8-ounce Mason jars or 16 4-ounce Mason jars (the short, squatty ones)

Instructions:

  1. In a small bowl, mix together the graham cracker crumbs and sugar. Add the melted butter and toss with a fork or your fingers to combine. If using 8-ounce jars, lightly press 3 heaping tablespoons of the graham cracker mixture onto the bottom and up the sides of each jar. If using 4-ounce jars, use 2 level tablespoons. Set the jars aside.
  2. In a large bowl, gently fold together the whipped topping and sweetened condensed milk. Add the lemonade concentrate. If desired, add the lemon juice and food coloring. Evenly distribute the filling among the jars. Cover and freeze for at least 4 hours. When ready to serve, allow to stand for 5 minutes.

(From OurBestbites)

 

 

Cowboy Quesadillas

IngredientsCowboyQues

  1. 1/2 C white rice
  2. 1/3 C black beans
  3. 1 cup diced cooked chicken
  4. 1/3 C fresh frozen corn kernels (no need to thaw)
  5. 2/3 C diced tomato
  6. 3 Tbs sliced green onion
  7. 1 1/2 C shredded cheese (any type or combo you like)
  8. 1/4 C bbq sauce
  9. 6 small tortillas (fajita size, about 6″)
    Dipping Sauce
    equal parts bbq sauce and ranch dressing

Instructions:

  1. Combine rice, beans, chicken, corn, tomato, green onion and shredded cheese.  Add bbq sauce and stir to combine.  Place about 1/3 C of mixture on half of each tortilla and fold over to close.
  2. Heat a skillet to medium heat on the stove top.  When hot, spray lightly with cooking spray, or drizzle with canola or olive oil.  Place quesadillas in pan and cook for 2-4 minutes or until golden brown and slightly crisp.  Flip and repeat on opposite side.  Cool for a few minutes and then serve with BBQ-Ranch dipping sauce.

(From OurBestBites)

FHE Game / Activity

Activity

1. Integrity includes being honest with yourself. To demonstrate this, place a treat before the children. Tell them they cannot partake until you say so. Then close your eyes or blindfold yourself and ask, “Is it all right for you to eat the treat now, just because I can’t see?” Talk about righteous things they can do when no one is watching, such as personal prayer. Remind them that Heavenly Father can always see them.

2. Consider asking your teen to help prepare a “What Would You Do?” quiz for family home evening. Use For the Strength of Youth as a guide and list situations that would give someone the opportunity to demonstrate honesty and integrity. Take the quiz as a family and discuss the results.

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Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a social media manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and is addicted to organic milk, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.

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    Love it

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    Perfect timing for a fireside I’m in charge of this weekend! I love it! Thank you!!

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