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What Should I Do If I See Pornography? – FHE Lesson

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Scripture

1 Corinthians 10:13

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

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Hymn

More Holiness Give Me, Hymn #131

1. More holiness give me,
More strivings within,
More patience in suff’ring,
More sorrow for sin,
More faith in my Savior,
More sense of his care,
More joy in his service,
More purpose in prayer.

2. More gratitude give me,
More trust in the Lord,
More pride in his glory,
More hope in his word,
More tears for his sorrows,
More pain at his grief,
More meekness in trial,
More praise for relief.

3. More purity give me,
More strength to o’ercome,
More freedom from earth-stains,
More longing for home.
More fit for the kingdom,
More used would I be,
More blessed and holy–
More, Savior, like thee.

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Lesson

*For Children*

Ask: Have you ever heard of the word “pornography?”

Read aloud: Pornography is any material depicting or describing the human body in an inappropriate way, often showing the sacred, private parts of the body. Pornography is often used to make people feel things that should only be felt by a husband and wife after they are married. You can find pornography in many places, including magazines, books, television, movies, music, and the Internet. It is as harmful to the spirit as tobacco, alcohol, and drugs are to the body. We should always do our best to never look at, read, or listen to any form of pornography.

Continue by reading the following story from the Liahona

Connor sat down at the family computer and typed in the website address his friend had given him. “You’ve got to check it out!” his friend had said.

But as soon as the website appeared, Connor felt awful. He quickly tried to close the page, but the more he clicked, the more bad pictures popped up. In a panic, Connor hit the off button on the computer and ran to his bedroom.

Connor felt sorry he had seen those pictures. Since his baptism a few months ago, he had started to feel the special peace of the Holy Ghost. But after seeing those pictures, Connor didn’t feel peace at all. He felt guilty and scared that someone would know what he had seen.

Connor was quiet during dinner. He tried to listen to his family’s conversation, but the pictures he had seen kept coming back into his mind. The sick feeling in his stomach wouldn’t go away.

When he said his prayer that night, Connor told Heavenly Father about the pictures he had seen. He said he was sorry and wouldn’t do it again. After the prayer he felt a little more peace, but he also had a feeling that he should go talk to Mom. Connor really didn’t want to tell her what had happened. What if she got angry or was disappointed?

Finally, Connor decided to talk to her. He went to Mom’s room and sat on her bed, where she was reading.

“Mom, can I talk to you?” he asked.

“Sure, honey,” Mom said. “What is it?”

He blurted it all out. He told her about what his friend said, and he told her about what he saw when he visited the site. Mom watched him closely, but she didn’t seem angry.

“I didn’t know what to do,” Connor said. “So I just turned off the computer and ran away. I’m so sorry, Mom. I shouldn’t have typed in that address in the first place, but I didn’t know it was bad.”

Mom gave Connor a hug. “Connor, I am so sorry you saw those pictures,” she said. “Some people try to trick children into seeing bad things. But you did the right thing. If you see bad pictures on the computer, you need to ‘crash and tell.’ That means push the power button to turn off the computer and then come and tell me right away. You did exactly the right thing.”

Connor felt so relieved!

“Connor, I want you to know it is not your fault,” Mom said. “It was a mistake, and you don’t need to feel guilty about what happened.”

“But, Mom, if I did the right thing, why did I feel so bad inside?”

“The Holy Ghost lets us know when something is dangerous,” Mom explained. “That feeling you got was the Holy Ghost telling you to get away. I will put a filter on our computer that will block bad sites, but sometimes bad things still might get through. So if something like this ever happens again, you know what to do, right?”

“Crash the computer and tell you,” Connor said.

“Exactly!” Mom said.

Before he got back in bed, Connor said a prayer to thank Heavenly Father for the relief he felt. As he prayed, he felt peace from the Holy Ghost. He knew things would be OK.

Ask: What did Connor do when he saw the bad pictures? What should you do if you see a bad picture or are reading a book or listening to song that is inappropriate? (If necessary, prayerfully choose how to help your child determine what makes a “bad picture” or how a song or book becomes inappropriate.)

Read aloud: Here are some tips to help you when you come across or show pornography:

1. If you are on the internet, immediately turn off the screen or computer. If you are with someone else, don’t be afraid to walk away.

2. Tell an adult what has happened.

3. Never visit that website again and ask for help to avoid pornography.

4. Pray for help to know what to do if you encounter pornography.

Finish the lesson by asking your family if they have any questions. If appropriate, share personal experiences about a time you had to avoid pornography or how staying away from pornography has helped you feel close to Heavenly Father.

 *For Teenagers and Adults*

Read aloud: Joseph of Egypt was one of Jacob’s twelve sons and is often remember for his coat of many colors, given to him by his father. His brothers became jealous of the coat and how their father favored Joseph. In anger, they sold their brother into Egypt, where he suffered many trials. During his time in Egypt, he began working for a very important man named Potiphar.

Ask: Who knows the story of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife?

Read aloud Genesis 39:7-12 after gathering a brief explanation from your family and describing Joseph as one who ran away from a dangerous situation:

“And it came to pass after these things, that his master’s wife cast her eyes upon Joseph; and she said, Lie with me.Pornography FHE

But he refused, and said unto his master’s wife, Behold, my master wotteth not what is with me in the house, and he hath committed all that he hath to my hand;

There is none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back any thing from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?

And it came to pass, as she spake to Joseph day by day, that he hearkened not unto her, to lie by her, or to be with her.

And it came to pass about this time, that Joseph went into the house to do his business; and there was none of the men of the house there within.

And she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.”

Ask: Why did he run away? How can we run away when we come across pornographic material while watching or reading something?

Invite your family or group to think of all the places they might encounter sexualized media. For example, they might encounter pornographic material in television shows, movies, books, magazines, music, video games, text messages, or on the Internet, mobile apps, and tablets. Discuss how they can protect themselves while using these resources. Discuss ways to respond if they accidentally encounter pornography.

Read aloud: There are many different ways we can run from pornography and inappropriate media, just as Joseph ran from Potiphar’s wife. The Lord is kind and wants to help us remain free of sin and overcome temptation. These are some important tips given by Church leaders to help us in this effort.

    • Many people who struggle with pornography were introduced to it by a friend. If anyone offers to show you pornography, leave immediately. Choose carefully the people you spend time with.
    • Have the courage to turn off any media that displays or talks about immorality, regardless of the rating.
    • Place televisions and computers in busy areas of the house. Do not use the computer when you are home alone.
    • Make sure that any computer you use to access the Internet has a filter that will block pornographic Web sites.
    • Never open e-mail from someone you don’t know. If you accidentally encounter pornography on the Web, immediately turn off the computer.
    • Listen to the promptings of the Holy Ghost. He will warn you when you are in a dangerous situation.

Complete the lesson by asking for any personal experiences about avoiding inappropriate media and other ways you can strive to keep yourselves free from pornography’s influences.

This lesson was inspired by the new FHE lessons released by the Church to help parents discuss pornography with their families. Learn more and view all of the lessons here.

 

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Treat

Snowman Oreo Truffles  or Organic Dark Chocolate Trail Mix Bites

Snowman Oreo Truffles 

Ingredients: 

-1 pkg. (8 oz.) brick cream cheese, softened
-36 OREO Cookies, finely crushed
-3 pkg. (4 oz. each) white baking chocolate, melted
-1 tsp. black decorating gel
-2 tsp. orange decorating icing

Directions: MIX cream cheese cookie crumbs until blended. SHAPE into 48 (1-inch) balls. Freeze 10 min. Dip balls in melted chocolate; place in single layer in shallow waxed paper-lined pan. Decorate with remaining ingredients to resemble snowmen. REFRIGERATE 1 hour or until firm. Keep refrigerated.

(Courtesy of Snack Works)

 

Organic Dark Chocolate Trail Mix Bites 
Ingredients:

-1/4 Cup Whole Food’s Antioxidant Energy Trail Mix (You can use any kind of trail mix though)
-3 Tbsp Organic Dark Chocolate Chips.

Directions:

1. In a microwave safe bowl, melt the dark chocolate chips in the microwave. Make sure not to over heat them or they will burn. Microwave 20 seconds and stir. If they have not completely melted after stirring, microwave an addition 10-15 seconds.

2. On a piece of wax paper make chocolate circles with a spoon. (approximately 8) Should be the size of a quarter.

3. Place the trail mix on top of the chocolate drops. Press them down into the chocolate lightly. Let the chocolate bites dry for about 40-60 minutes. Place in a refrigerator for faster results.

(Courtesy of Simply, Taralynn)

 

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Activity

 

Mormon Channel Viewing Party or Pepper and Soap Activity

Mormon Channel Viewing Party

Gather around the computer with your family or pull up the internet on your TV if available and go to mormonchannel.org. Let everyone take turns exploring through the videos available and choosing one to watch. For younger children, you can bookmark the page and show them how to access the Children’s section. Discuss any other sites with great media that your family can go to. Examples include: lds.org/friend, mormon.org, ldsdaily.com, and lds.org.

Pepper and Soap Activity

Materials: 

-A bowl filled with water for each family member
-Pepper
-Paper towels
-Liquid dish soap

Directions: Begin by telling your family that their bowl of water represents the world they live in. Then, have everyone shake as much pepper as they can into the water in their bowls. The pepper represents the bad influences in the world, such as pornography and inappropriate media. Instruct everyone to stick their finger into the water. They will find that the pepper sticks to their finger. Mention how sometimes it seems hard to keep ourselves clean from the world. Have them wipe their finger clean with a paper towel. Now, have them cover their finger with liquid dish soap and dip the finger into the pepper water. The pepper will automatically jump to the edges of the bowl and everyone will be able to lift their fingers out of the water without any pepper. Discuss how the Lord wants to help us as we strive to avoid those things that could spiritually harm us. Note: The effect created by the liquid dish soap will only work once per bowl. To repeat the effect, a new bowl of water with pepper must be used.

 

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Aleah Ingram
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a social media manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and is addicted to organic milk, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.
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