When it comes to dating advice we often roll our eyes when mom gets on her soap box to dispense unsolicited guidance. However, occasionally your maternal influences might have a pearl of wisdom that could improve your perspective on dating or even answer a prayer.
Here’s some thoughtful dating wisdom from a Q&A a panel of moms shared with The LDS Matchmaker:
Q: What’s your best dating advice?:
A: Throw away the list you wrote down as a teenager with everything you wanted your future spouse to be. Look outside the box and let go of expectations.
A: Ask yourself this important question; is he (or she) kind? You can live a very long time with a kind man (or woman).
A: You have to be the one, before you find the one.
A: Be yourself and don’t wait for your special someone to come along and make you happy.
Q: What would you say to someone holding high expectations but having a hard time finding the right dates?
A: It’s not fair to judge date candidates against someone like a father, mother or another person in your life you’ve put on a pedestal. It takes years of living and maturing to reach that state. Those “ideal” men or women were probably a lot less ideal when they were dating. Find someone who has the potential to become like the person you admire.
A: Overlook the little things. Everyone has issues. If you can agree on the important things, the small things become less significant.
A: There isn’t just one right person. There are a lot of compatible matches. Don’t focus your lens so closely that you miss good people.
A: Be realistic about the options you have. In real estate, you wouldn’t expect to move right into your dream house. In love, you start with someone who has potential to become the person of your dreams after years together building “equity” and improving yourselves.
Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. She now works full time as a marketing and product manager, writer, and editor. Aleah served a mission in California and loves baking, Lang Leav poetry, Gaynor Minden pointe shoes, and Bollywood movies.